TRIGGER WARNING: I made a promise to myself that with this blog, I will try to be as candid and open as I can. This means that there will be potential triggers.
In an emergency, please call your emergency services immediately.
The following is a very brief overview of my journey of leaving an abusive relationship. I must stress that every situation is different, and I have included as many helpful resources as I can at the end of this post.
This time last year, I was sat on my bathroom floor with my head in my hands, sobbing uncontrollably in pure desperation. I was trapped in a toxic, abusive relationship and I couldn’t see a way out. I knew I had to get out… I was already a year into an intensive period of self-improvement and growth. My self-worth and confidence was at an all-time high. I just didn’t know how.
I begged the Universe / God / the Moon / the Stars to show me a way out. I was desperate. Four months later, I was finally free, and it started with a conversation with my GP.
I had become so mentally unwell. The smallest sound made me jump and I was constantly on edge. I was already taking medication for depression and anxiety, and I rang my GP to talk about getting my medication changed or the dosage increased, but she sensed that something wasn’t right. Before I knew it, I had told her everything.
It was the first time I had spoken about the abuse I was being subjected to and it felt amazing to finally get it all out. From there, things moved quite quickly. My GP referred me to Bridges and I was assigned a domestic abuse support worker. My support worker put me in touch with a solicitor, who very quickly applied for a non-molestation order. This would mean that my ex-partner would not be able to contact me in any way, or come within 100 metres of me or my home.
The evening I received the phone call from the Bailiff, telling me he had just served my ex-partner with the non-molestation order, I burst into tears. The relief was instant.
Since then, I have continued to learn and grow. I am the happiest I have been in my whole life. I am now in a healthy relationship with one of the most amazing people I have ever met. My business is thriving, I am making progress towards my goals and I have so much to look forward to in the future.
I am committed to staying on this path of learning and growth, and I hope that you’ll come along for the ride with me.
Resources – UK
- Women can call The Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge on 0808 2000 247
- Men can call Men’s Advice Line on 0808 8010 327 or ManKind on 0182 3334 244
- If you identify as LGBT+ you can call Galop on 0800 999 5428
Resources – USA
- The National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
- National Dating Abuse Helpline – 1-866-331-9474
You can also talk to a doctor, health visitor or midwife.
In an emergency, call 999 / 911